Masculinity: Vive la [sexy] différence!

You'll forgive me if I don’t have any life experience to bring to this topic. I'm not married. In fact, I’ve never even co-habitated with a romantic partner. But it won't always be so and that's why I'm paying close attention to Lori Gottlieb’s article about the dearth of sex in egalitarian marriages (Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?) in which she suggests that couples who divide household responsibilities equally suffer from a lack of zing in the bedroom. Let’s get a little hurdle out of the way … [Read more...]

On Cookies and Sex

"The crumbs of love that you offer me, they're the crumbs I've left behind" -- Leonard Cohen (Avalanche). Ladies, let's talk about dating and all the oh-so helpful advice out there for us. During most of my 20s and 30s, I'd been single. And I have gone on a lot of dates. It probably hasn't been quite that many, but I feel like I've been on at least 100 lame first dates (plus about 5 awesome ones)! Yeah, I'm bored and I'm tired. … [Read more...]

Book Club, 1st edition: Sex and the Single Girl!

It's 2012, so why am I writing about a 1962 book that calls itself "the unmarried woman's guide to men"? Because I still think it's one of the greatest things around! When author, and famed Cosmopolitan magazine editor, Helen Gurley Brown died in August at the age of 90, my immediate reaction was to dig up my old copy of Sex and the Single Girl. I was never a huge fan of Cosmo, except during a brief period in my early 20s, but both the book and the magazine were important in that they reflected, and maybe even shaped, changing attitudes toward women and sex. … [Read more...]