A [Bed]Room of One’s Own: Why I Sleep Alone

I'm coming out of the closet. Finally, I am ready to share my dirty little secret with you -- My mate and I sleep in separate bedrooms... and I like it that way! Would I love to snuggle up at night next to my Monsieur, fall gently into a blissful dreamworld and wake up 8 hours later resplendent and gazing deeply into his big heavy-lidded morning eyes? Yes, yes I would. Sadly, that is unlikely to ever happen. I am a notoriously … [Read more...]

Masculinity: Vive la [sexy] différence!

You'll forgive me if I don’t have any life experience to bring to this topic. I'm not married. In fact, I’ve never even co-habitated with a romantic partner. But it won't always be so and that's why I'm paying close attention to Lori Gottlieb’s article about the dearth of sex in egalitarian marriages (Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?) in which she suggests that couples who divide household responsibilities equally suffer from a lack of zing in the bedroom. Let’s get a little hurdle out of the way … [Read more...]

The Solitude Manifesto

In my fantasy life, I am a grande flâneuse (one who idles; see flâneur). I spend my time languidly sipping coffee and I perhaps run an occasional errand so that my cat and I don't starve. I read fashion magazines in cafés, or I just people watch. I write a little, I read a lot. I gaze at pretty things in shop windows as I stroll along. In dark movie theatres, I sit alone letting myself be absorbed by … [Read more...]