A [Bed]Room of One’s Own: Why I Sleep Alone

I'm coming out of the closet. Finally, I am ready to share my dirty little secret with you -- My mate and I sleep in separate bedrooms... and I like it that way! Would I love to snuggle up at night next to my Monsieur, fall gently into a blissful dreamworld and wake up 8 hours later resplendent and gazing deeply into his big heavy-lidded morning eyes? Yes, yes I would. Sadly, that is unlikely to ever happen. I am a notoriously … [Read more...]

Masculinity: Vive la [sexy] différence!

You'll forgive me if I don’t have any life experience to bring to this topic. I'm not married. In fact, I’ve never even co-habitated with a romantic partner. But it won't always be so and that's why I'm paying close attention to Lori Gottlieb’s article about the dearth of sex in egalitarian marriages (Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?) in which she suggests that couples who divide household responsibilities equally suffer from a lack of zing in the bedroom. Let’s get a little hurdle out of the way … [Read more...]

Give Dick a Chance

She did it again! Margaret Wente lured me into her column with another snappy title; this time it was "What you won't learn about marriage in gender studies." I didn't think gender studies was supposed to teach me anything about marriage particularly, so I couldn't help but read the thing. … [Read more...]

3 Things = Love

It all started with what a friend and I call "The Scary Book". Some time last year, she told me she was reading a book that made her want to say "yes" to a date with a marginally employed hipster artist dude when she previously had no interest in dating him. Given that this particular friend had very little interest in dating at all, never mind dating guys with less-than-stellar prospects, I was curious. … [Read more...]

Book Club, 1st edition: Sex and the Single Girl!

It's 2012, so why am I writing about a 1962 book that calls itself "the unmarried woman's guide to men"? Because I still think it's one of the greatest things around! When author, and famed Cosmopolitan magazine editor, Helen Gurley Brown died in August at the age of 90, my immediate reaction was to dig up my old copy of Sex and the Single Girl. I was never a huge fan of Cosmo, except during a brief period in my early 20s, but both the book and the magazine were important in that they reflected, and maybe even shaped, changing attitudes toward women and sex. … [Read more...]