When to Follow the Dream (and when to give up)

Bloody serious I lived in fear of having to clap. Flamenco, that passionate, heartbreaking dance was kicking my butt. A dream since I was a teen had been to learn this exotic dance. And here I was -- I knew the steps, but the rhythms were an unsolvable mystery. My worst nightmare became being asked to do palmas! I had started taking flamenco dance classes before a trip to the Andalucía region of Spain … [Read more...]

On Cookies and Sex

"The crumbs of love that you offer me, they're the crumbs I've left behind" -- Leonard Cohen (Avalanche). Ladies, let's talk about dating and all the oh-so helpful advice out there for us. During most of my 20s and 30s, I'd been single. And I have gone on a lot of dates. It probably hasn't been quite that many, but I feel like I've been on at least 100 lame first dates (plus about 5 awesome ones)! Yeah, I'm bored and I'm tired. … [Read more...]

The Most Important Thing, Ever

I find I'm in a sort of pensive mood lately, both because of a sad event in a friend’s life, and of happy events in my own. So I’m going to write about the one thing that I would want to transmit to a child if I were ever to have one (unlikely). That thing is the importance of trusting your intuition. Call it gut feeling, call it instinct, call it being visited by an angel (really, I won’t judge you); it’s a voice that’s inside everyone and it’s always right. Always. … [Read more...]