A [Bed]Room of One’s Own: Why I Sleep Alone

I'm coming out of the closet. Finally, I am ready to share my dirty little secret with you -- My mate and I sleep in separate bedrooms... and I like it that way! Would I love to snuggle up at night next to my Monsieur, fall gently into a blissful dreamworld and wake up 8 hours later resplendent and gazing deeply into his big heavy-lidded morning eyes? Yes, yes I would. Sadly, that is unlikely to ever happen. I am a notoriously … [Read more...]

2016 Oscar Fashions

We can't talk Oscars without first applauding that opening monologue. Wowza, talk about not skirting the issue, Mr Rock. (I believe Fight the Power played as he walked onto the stage.) Chris Rock managed to be funny while putting things in perspective and just flat out saying Hollywood is racist. Very high energy. I felt a bit bad for some presenters who appeared staid and stiff next to him. Of course, I couldn't watch to the end, sleep being more important to me than Hollywood. But I saw ALL the clothes. So onto to the frou frou -- let's talk style! … [Read more...]

8 Travel Tips for Homebodies

It’s that frozen time of year again, the time when I start to look at all-inclusive vacation deals in tropical climates. Alas! This year, we're being responsible and saving our pennies for house repairs rather than spending them on mojitos and sun block. I really can't complain though because I got back not so long ago from a lovely Turkish vacation with my mother. This was the kind of trip I rarely go on, one where nothing was pre-packaged and I organized all of the travel with lots of potential for things going wrong. … [Read more...]

Bjütie’s Best of 2015

One of the great joys of reaching the end of the year is all of the lists. Best books of the year lists are the best, but I enjoy it all -- worst trends of 2015, best Instagram pics, most underrated internet cats, everything. New beginnings are the best, but looking back fondly comes in a close second. Here are my personal discoveries of 2015 (not all are of 2015, sometimes I'm a bit slow). Best BOOK I read: … [Read more...]

Disturbing Movies of the 1980s

There's a real oddness at the core of many of the films from my childhood. Was I just young and impressionable or did the movies of the 1980s often delve into the disturbing side of life... sometimes in a very goofy way? It's almost as if filmmakers of the 80s enjoyed exploring dark, unsettling themes, and yet couldn't take them too seriously. The other main theme that comes up often, of course, is class division, often with a love story woven in.  On this Halloween day, the very best of all the holidays, I'd like to revisit some of the strange and wonderful movies of my youth. … [Read more...]

Nature, Prince, and Pig’s Blood

On this, the last day of my mini summer vacation and a few days past my 39th (gah!) birthday, I sit by an open window, a soft breeze blows in despite the oppressive heat outside, and birds, crickets and a buzzing fly provide the soundtrack. Since moving to the country almost one year ago, I've often experienced the strange feeling of being away while at home. It's a summer cottage sensation, a lazy dream state in which my body feels pleasantly heavy, my mind at peace. I look out at the trees and wildflowers and my eyes rest in a way that is impossible in a busy city landscape. It is lovely. … [Read more...]

How to Be Vulnerable (A Guide for You, Independent Lady)

As a woman with a sensitive heart and a tear that's never too far away, I spent the first part of my adulthood putting up a wall of invulnerability. And I've been spending the last few years painfully stripping away that wall and being frighteningly, pathetically vulnerable. A friend recently explained an epiphany she'd had -- A cute guy who was in her life for a few hours due to technical household difficulties twice offered to help her with something that fell outside of his professional duties. And twice she refused, only to realize later … [Read more...]

Must Read Memoirs for Foodies

Memoirs are like autobiographies for obsessives. Authors focus in on one tiny part of their lives and, in the process, transmit something of their journey, and hopefully their passions, to the reader. Memoirs really blew up a few years ago and much to my delight because they're my favourite things to read. And when you love food as much as I do, the fact that there's even such a thing as a food memoir is a gift from heaven. Tell me about your life? Yes please. Tell me about your life AND what you ate … [Read more...]