The Most Important Thing, Ever

I find I'm in a sort of pensive mood lately, both because of a sad event in a friend’s life, and of happy events in my own. So I’m going to write about the one thing that I would want to transmit to a child if I were ever to have one (unlikely). That thing is the importance of trusting your intuition. Call it gut feeling, call it instinct, call it being visited by an angel (really, I won’t judge you); it’s a voice that’s inside everyone and it’s always right. Always. … [Read more...]

C’est quoi un Hipster?

“What’s a hipster?” This is a question I was faced with recently when I said that my rapidly gentrifying neighbourhood is full of hipsters. I admit that I had a hard time answering; I think I may have mumbled something about oversized eyeglasses, beards, and being “cool”. My friend lives [blissfully unaware] in the country, but if you live in any kind trendy urban setting, then you see hipsters everywhere and you can’t help but situate yourself in relation to that (Sure, I listen to Wolf Parade, but I'm totally not a hipster... not that there’s anything wrong with that). … [Read more...]

Book/Film Club hybrid: Katniss Everdeen and the new Bond Girl

I saw Skyfall, the new James Bond film on the weekend. The rumours were true, it was pretty darned good. However, I was supremely disappointed by the latest Bond Girls, especially the one he meets in Shanghai and Macau. … [Read more...]

Lipstick vs Feminism

"You're the kind of feminist I like" more than one man has said to me when discovering that I have a degree in women's studies, yet have long hair on my head and none on my legs. In an ideal world, a feminist can be butch or feminine or gamine or sporty or granola or whatever, but in this world a woman who calls herself a feminist invites weird stereotypes, or simplistic labels like "lipstick feminist". Yes, really. … [Read more...]

Book Club, 1st edition: Sex and the Single Girl!

It's 2012, so why am I writing about a 1962 book that calls itself "the unmarried woman's guide to men"? Because I still think it's one of the greatest things around! When author, and famed Cosmopolitan magazine editor, Helen Gurley Brown died in August at the age of 90, my immediate reaction was to dig up my old copy of Sex and the Single Girl. I was never a huge fan of Cosmo, except during a brief period in my early 20s, but both the book and the magazine were important in that they reflected, and maybe even shaped, changing attitudes toward women and sex. … [Read more...]

Grateful as f*ck is the new skinny

“I’m so stupid!” said the gorgeous Brazilian woman who was my coworker. “I complained about my cellulite and showed my husband. Until then, he thought I didn’t have any.” This was probably 6 years ago but I never have forgotten the lesson. To begin with, how could this young woman with her beautiful dark hair, long slim legs, full breasts, giant doll eyes and perfect pouty lips, how could SHE be so insecure about her appearance? … [Read more...]